LET’S GROW

This was a lesson I learned within my therapy sessions. My therapist gave me a tool that has helped me greatly and I want to pass it on to you.

Exercise : I want you to think about a memory that makes you feel a positive emotion. This memory can be from any point in your life. If you are in a safe place to do so, close your eyes and really immerse yourself there. Now, give me one word to describe the feeling that memory gives you. Now that you have that word, close your eyes again and repeat that word, many times, out loud, while you are in that memory.

For me that word is peace. The memory it would take me back to was sitting on the edge of a stone amphitheater on the side of a mountain in Boulder, Colorado. I was watching the sun rise with a friend. It was such a wonderful moment and, because of that exercise I just shared with you, I go back there often in my mind.

When do we use this skill? Whenever we feel negativity bubbling up and we feel like we don’t have control of it. A small example of this is someone cutting you off in traffic. It’s annoying and I also get a mini rage sometimes when this happens. There are two main ways to move forward. I can curse, get annoyed, and stay annoyed; Then inevitably something else happens and it compounds. Two small things can become a big thing and affect the rest of my day and possibly transfer to my loved ones. Or I can stop myself, say the word peace, and transport myself to a happier place. Then just move on with my day.

It’s amazing how making it through just that initial feeling can squash the power it has over you. In the end, you won’t think about that person cutting you off the next day. So, how important is it? There is the famous quote: 

LET’S DISCUSS

Here are some of the the responses from Patreon supporters on Discord. Join us!

Walks has been my go to for years now and man does it help. It also burns calories! Win Win!

That’s my best friend and I can attest she does this. I am so proud of her

Challenging your emotions with logic helps. Being honest with your emotions helps so so much.

Asking yourself questions helps with that logical thinking. There is walking again haha

LET’S LEARN

💻WATCH - Intrusive Thoughts and Overthinking: The Skill of Cognitive Diffusion 20/30. https://bit.ly/3uHoIx1 This was such a helpful and interesting listen for us overthinkers

🎧LISTEN -The Anxiety Spiral : How to allow anxiety without spiraling. Learned a lot about how to embrace anxiety instead of fighting it. Very interesting.  https://bit.ly/3uHbTCT 

LET’S SHARE

Here are some worksheets from my Therapist. This has been an incredible tool for negative spiral!

Ask yourself these questions when you find yourself in a negative mindset

LET’S SMILE

Look….I am trying haha

ON PERSONAL NOTE

Since starting down the path of sharing my personal growth and lessons, it’s brought the right kind of people around. The emails back and forth here and all the DMs saying thanks for being so open with your experiences and growth. A handful of you have been reaching out for coaching and I have taken a few clients, helping them work through complicated dynamics in their lives. 

Every time I get done I feel incredible. I feel like I am doing what lights me up. If any of you are interested in 1:1 calls every week for coaching, respond to this newsletter with what you are trying to work through! Look forward to working with you all.

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