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Fear of failure is something that keeps a lot of us stuck in a place that no longer feels like home.
Before we get started, come check out the besties section of the newsletter. I make videos talking to you directly each week! You seek new experiences often to expand your mind and well-being. Once you stop growing, life can get really stagnant and monotonous. Let’s work on battling that part of our brain that constantly says the phrase “what if I fail?”
Fear of failure isn’t just about not succeeding in your goals, it’s about the optics. Here are some common reasons why that voice is so loud:
You will look incompetent – I hate to break it to you, but when it comes to trial and error, that also involves error. There’s going to be incompetence no matter what in the beginning, that’s the price you pay for your confidence later.
People will judge me – I’ll be really succinct here: fuck those people. If they judge you for trying, that’s just a sign they don’t belong in your life.
It will confirm what I think about myself – In the end, you are in control over how you view yourself. This is an opportunity to change that narrative because you are in control of it.
It’s too risky – If it’s a matter of life and death, sure, I agree with you. But ask yourself this question: will it be more painful to be in this position a year from now, or to never try at all and be exactly where you are? Only you can answer that question.
But here’s the truth: You’ve already survived failure before.
You’ve been knocked down and stood back up.
What if this time… you fly?
One of my favorite things is to find a way to redirect my brain when it’s going in a direction that’s not helpful for me. Huge fan of actually applicable things, so hopefully this works for you too. Here are some common phrases your fearful brain will say, and ways to move it in a more positive direction:
Fear says: “What if this doesn’t work?”
You say: “Then I’ll learn how to improve.”
Fear says: “What if people judge me?”
You say: “People will judge no matter what. Might as well be yourself.”
Fear says: “What if I’m not good enough?”
You say: “Growth doesn’t come from being ready. It comes from showing up anyway.”
Often when we are unkind to ourselves, like in the example of constantly fearing that we will fail, it’s important that we bring ourselves to a logical place when we are in the position to do so.
Keep a “proof list.” Times you failed and still kept going. Times you took a risk and it led to something better. This helps you look at the macro of your life instead of the micro and shows the pattern of actual success instead of failure. If you would like to go into further discussion, please join us in the besties section. Now go forth and be unfiltered.
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No outcome can undo who you are.
So take the leap. Fall forward if you must.
Because even failure plants seeds.
Affirmations
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Failure teaches me what doesn’t work.
People will judge me no matter what I do.
I am worthy regardless of any outcome.
Growth happens through showing up.
I am proud of myself for trying.
Every attempt plants a seed.
Tough feedback helps me grow.
I’d rather try than always wonder.
How things turn out isn’t a reflection of me.
I don’t have to be perfect to be capable.
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