LET’S GROW

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We were talking about this quiz brought up by Annika in the Discord, about internal saboteurs. I am down for any sort of free quiz, and I wanted to go over my top results but also hear from you, what would you get on this?

As much as it wasn’t surprising, it was a little frustrating that my top result was being a pleaser, because that is something I have worked on. This just goes to show that the work takes a while, and you must be patient with yourself as you go through it. So here are the results that I got. My top three are Pleaser, Hypervigilant, and Hyper-Achiever. And if I really dive into this, it comes from not being heard or seen growing up as a kid, but also facing a lot of bullying and hoping that if I achieve, I can keep myself safe but also be accepted by others. I feel like this is a really common thing, but let’s get into the top results of Pleaser and go into the breakdown of what it says.

Now don’t hear what I’m not saying. I’m not saying you are a bad person for being a people pleaser, but what I am saying is if you are doing nice things with the expectation of reciprocation, that is not a healthy dynamic with being kind.