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How to stop attaching your worth to others
Chris Thompson
December 09, 2025
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Yvonne - Well moreso self worth. So maybe not how to stop attaching your worth to others
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I know from personal experience that attaching your worth to anything outside of yourself sets you up for a lot of failure. It’s like building a house on sand…very unstable. Let’s detach from that idea and here is how. Thanks to bestie Yvonne for this topic suggestion!
here’s the truth: your worth is not up for debate.
Why We Attach Worth to the External
Validation feels safer than self-trust. We crave proof that we’re okay and if you don’t trust your ability to read the situation, you will seek it elsewhere.
Perfectionism whispers: If I get it right, then I’ll finally deserve love.
Old wounds linger. Many of us learned early on that approval = survival.
These patterns make sense, but they don’t have to define your present.
Shifting Back to Your Inner Worth
1. Redefine success.
Instead of measuring by outside approval, ask: “Did I act in alignment with my values today?” I was having a discussion about this with someone and this point really helped me.
“Trusting someone outside of the situation more than the person living it is wild.”
2. Create internal rituals.
Journaling “3 things I appreciate about myself.”
Saying affirmations out loud. Even if this feels weird just try it!
Pausing to notice what you actually want, separate from others’ opinions.
3. Catch the comparison trap.
When your brain says “They’re doing better, so I must be worse,” answer with: “Their story isn’t my measuring stick.” Also, you never know if that comparison is accurate.
Dont compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.
4. Build worth through being, not doing.
Your worth is inherent. You don’t earn it by achieving, producing, or pleasing. You already have it, simply by existing.
A Gentle Reminder
The love you’re searching for outside of yourself becomes so much steadier when it starts inside. People may come and go, circumstances may rise and fall, but your worth isn’t negotiable.
It’s already here. Always has been. Always will be.
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Affirmations
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My worth is not measured by others’ opinions.
I define success by my own values and growth.
I am valuable simply because I exist.
I release the need for constant approval.
Comparison is a distraction—my path is uniquely mine.
I choose to celebrate progress, not perfection.
My inner voice matters more than outside noise.
I trust myself to know what’s right for me.
I honor my being, not just my doing.
My worth is unshakable, steady, and always present.
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