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LET’S GROW
I'm somebody who naturally has been vulnerable in his life and I don't take that for granted because I was allowed to express myself safely and I know not everybody has that.
I also know that lack of vulnerability in my relationships has been the downfall of many of them. One of the main reasons is because I don't want to know a filtered version of you I'm trying to know who you actually are and if you are afraid I can't do that.
It's kind of like sitting on a bench with your arms spread wide hoping that somebody will embrace you but there's also a possibility that they leave you hanging or punch you in the stomach and that can be scary.
I wish there was an easier way of doing it but the only way to know if you are safe to be vulnerable with someone is to be vulnerable with someone.
How do we become vulnerable?
Especially for our neurodivergent friends I want to make sure that you understand that being vulnerable doesn't mean sharing everything with everyone. it's allowing someone to see you as you are regardless of their reaction and that builds confidence.
Start small - If you think you have a trusted person in your life share something that is semi uncomfortable just to see what their reaction is. if they embrace it and they don't judge you or immediately start talking about themselves instead that's a good person for you.
Use “I feel” statements - when you find yourself in conflict with somebody use I feel statements so you are not blaming or deflecting or putting the other person on defense. it's just about expressing your inner experience.
Don’t manage others - often I will try to manage other people's emotions because I am uncomfortable with the situation being uncomfortable but sometimes that's just how it is and at least that's genuine.
In the end make it about you and how you are feeling and what would make you feel better instead of what the other person can change. Build up your roster of people you think you can be vulnerable with and test it out. maybe it's one person maybe it's a few people but if you have one person you are already blessed.
Now go forth and be unfiltered.
Affirmations
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I am safe to express my true feelings.
My vulnerability is a sign of my strength.
I choose to show up as my authentic self today.
It’s okay for others to see my imperfections.
I release the fear of judgment and speak my truth.
Being vulnerable helps me build deeper connections.
I honor my emotions by allowing them to be seen.
I trust that sharing my heart will bring me closer to those who matter.
My openness creates space for healing and growth.
I am brave enough to let people see the real me.
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