LET’S GROW

Some of you may have noticed that I gifted a month of access to the Bestie section for people who have high engagement. Before I get started with our topic for the day, I wanted to clear up some confusion. This was a gift! No one got charged, I promise and I hope to see you all in book club starting tomorrow on the Unfiltered Friends Discord.

One of my favorite things about the concept of an inner critic is that most people have one. It’s something in common that we can all help each other with.

There are many theories as to where the inner critic comes from:

1. The voice of someone else that we internalized.

2. Trauma in childhood that was never addressed.

3. Societal pressures to conform in ways that don’t align with our authentic self.

That voice is not helpful and can keep us from achieving our goals or loving ourselves. Here are some tips to handle your inner critic.

How to handle your inner critic

1. Talk nice to them - This sounds odd, but for me that critical voice was necessary for survival. Now that I no longer need that push I say, “Thank you for getting me here. I’m going to move on from you.”

2. Create an inner champion - Allow space for a compassionate voice as well. Have kind phrases you can say to yourself to help you be nicer to yourself. I say things like “Proud of you for showing up today.” or “You are a masterpiece and you are worthy.” Don’t allow the inner critic to be the only voice you hear.

3. Have a conversation with someone who loves you - Tell them what you are saying to yourself. Hearing their voice and outside perspective can help you consider other ideas.

4. Don’t quit trying - You have spent many years listening to that unkind voice. Being compassionate with yourself takes practice. Just keep swimming.

If you have anything to add, or want more perspective on this subject, respond to this email. I’m proud of you for showing up for yourself today. Thanks for reading, friend.