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LET’S GROW
I have been going to therapy for about 4 years and I have uncovered quite a bit and learned a lot.
Before we get started, come check out the besties section of the newsletter. I make videos talking to you directly each week! One of the big things that they do not prepare you for is how lonely you will feel as you heal. Why is this?
In the beginning you have such a rush of feeling great because you are finally doing the work and you are learning the tools, and that is a wonderful thing. But what they don’t prepare you for is when you actually have to apply those things not only to yourself but also to the people who are around you.
You become a different version of yourself, which means you have to relearn your relationship with you, but you also have to analyze the relationships around you to see if they actually work for this more healed version of you. I will let you know this—and I hope this does not deter you from doing this work because I regret none of it—but,
In the path of healing, not everybody is meant to come with you.
Not everybody is going to like that new version of you or accept the boundaries that person sets, and that is totally their right. Regardless of it being their right, you still have emotions attached to their loss. You will go through a grieving. Not just for yourself, but for those relationships that don’t stay with you.
None of this means you’re broken.
It means you’re in between.
Between who you were and who you’re becoming.
What To Remember in the Lonely Seasons
It’s Okay to Grieve Growth - You’re allowed to miss things, even if they weren’t good for you. You’re allowed to feel sad about people drifting, even if you chose the distance.
Let your grief exist without shame.
Lonely Doesn’t Mean Wrong – Not all distance is bad.
Some of it is spaciousness.
Some of it is clarity.
Some of it is your next season making room.
Stay Open to Aligned Connection - The more you honor your truth, the more you attract people who do the same.
The lonely season won’t last forever, especially if you stay true to yourself through it.
This sort of growth and healing is partially lonely because it’s so difficult, which means most people never try. If it were easy, everybody would be doing it. Make sure through the process that you are actually feeling your feelings instead of intellectualizing them, because that’s part of the process too—and honestly the most painful part. You will lose people, but you will gain self, and you will gain new relationships, and you will be okay. If you would like to go into further discussion please join us in the besties section. Now go forth and be unfiltered.
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The people who are truly in your corner will embrace growth-minded you and love you through your phases.
Affirmations
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It is natural to feel lonely sometimes.
I am creating space for my growth.
Change can be uncomfortable, but I am not alone.
I honor the distance as I heal.
It’s okay if the journey looks different than I imagined.
I allow myself to mourn what I’ve lost.
My healing is valid even if others don’t understand it.
I trust the process, even when I feel isolated.
New connections will come when I am ready.
LET’S CONNECT
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